Now shut up and hear me out.
I don’t want a man to have the satisfaction of knowing he’s taken my virginity. Call it a power struggle, call it misandry (no, don’t), whatever you call it, I don’t want any man on this planet to be able to say he took my virginity. It’s not his to take.
It’s not his to take because I’ve claimed it already.
PLOT TWIST: I TOOK MY OWN VIRGINITY.
I mean, sex can be defined however you want it to be, so I’m thinking about all those times I used a bubble wand (you know those things at Walmart that are just a really long bubble thing? yeah) on myself and I think I get to define that as me taking my own virginity. Because I fucking said so. I mean there was penetration involved and that’s how I personally define heterosexual virginity loss, so there we go.
Side note: you can define “losing your virginity” however the fuck you want, and don’t let anybody tell you different. If you think it’s having oral sex, that’s fine. If you think it’s having an orgasm, that’s fine. Whatever you decide is fucking fine. If anyone ever tries to tell you otherwise, punch them in the face. It’s not their body and it’s not their decision.
I just became fiercely invested in this argument, wow. I guess I just hate when other people try to tell me about my body and my choices.
Side note 2: I have not had sex with another person. Sometimes I think I want to and then I remember the last time I slept in the same bed as a man and I want to throw up. He didn’t really do anything, I just didn’t like him. I think that’s a story for another day.
This post is really long, wow. Time to tag the shit out of it.
Oh yeah, side note 3: Not only is “popping your cherry” fucking nasty sounding, it’s hugely incorrect. Your hymen does not break (and if it does, you’re probably doing it wrong) it stretches. In a rare case, your hymen could cover the entire opening to your vagina, and I guess then it would get “popped,” but that’s the only way your cherry would ever pop. Hymen stretches. And if you don’t have sex for a long time, it’ll probably go back to how it was before you ever had sex. If you take it slow, and go through foreplay or use lube or something, your first time shouldn’t even really be that painful.
Last side note: you are always allowed to tell your partner to stop. If you’re half undressed and you want to stop, you can tell them to stop. If you are already having sex and you want to stop, you can tell them to stop. It is your body. You get to make the decisions. If you decide you don’t want to continue for any fucking reason, you can say so.